Have you guys heard / read about love languages?

I heard about this from 2 of my close friends and i would like to share it here for a long time ago.

It's a pretty good lesson especially for those couples who had been together for years.

It's not easy, but well, it's not too hard at the same time to maintain a long term relationship.

I always thought that communication is the only to solve arguments. \

After some time, i realized that not only communication, but understanding the love languange of your love ones is very important as well.

 

so, what's the 5 love languages? "The essay below was quoted from this site, http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/"

This book was written by Gary Chapman - I haven't read the book yet. Found it through online :)

 

  • Words of Affirmation

    Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

  • Quality Time

    In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

  • Receiving Gifts

    Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

  • Acts of Service

    Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

  • Physical Touch

    This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

I think i'm more towards word affirmation? or physical touch?

I'm a coward and low confident person! I need someone to keep telling me that everything is fine and keep motivating me...

But i'm learning and my next goal is to be even more independent and patient! Try to be more flexible too!

Human always afraid of changes but unfortunately i'm working in this fastest growing company. I've got no choice but be FAST & FLEXIBLE!

Everyday is like fighting in a war! ok stop talking about work.

 

Btw, I'm pretty sure that bear is "Acts of service"! ohhh poor me! gotta start vacuuming n cleaning the house to make him feel love! OMG!

Do you know how much i sacrifice for this? muahahaha it's all BS la! I'm just plain lazy to do housework!

He's always the one who always keep the house clean!

but i'm proud of myself that i actually spent 2 days to clean the whole room thoroughly!!!!

Not sure whether he feels something but well, i'll improve as we go along! lol

 

In a nut shell, it's not just about understanding which love language your love ones belong to but treat him/her along with their love languange is the most crucial part to maintain a long term relationship.

This post is to remind me to stay calm and continue treating my love ones along with their love languages.

Not just the bf but the family members too.

 

Thanks to both, my previous colleagues who shared this to me. Hugs.

 

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