Sherlynlicious

I'm not an expert on this but I've been through this stage especially when my relationship of 5 years ended. I've got a few friends recently ended their relationships with their partners and most of them were cheated by their partner. I normally don't know what to say to them in person. 

Guess this is what I can do to help them to at least feel better.

It's hurting you crazily I know. Especially in the night time. You kept thinking about how happy you were, kept thinking about how your ex spending their happy time with their current partner. You kept thinking about all the things that you did for your ex and kept questioning about how can they turn their back to you and leave just like that. How can they change so fast and live so happily with their new partner like nothing happens. You're angry cz you've contributed so much to the relationship. You gave them almost everything!! You loved him/her more than yourself! You stalk their FB page hoping to see some sad status and if they don't, you get mad. You kept checking your whatsapp or mailbox hoping that they still care about you. You called them in the midnight telling them that you press the wrong buttons etc hoping that they will talk to you and you guys will get back together. You told them you will change and you guys just need to work things out together.

I know it hurts. And I can't just tell you to move on just like that! Cz they used to stand a huge part in your life. You both do everything almost together. You talk about dreams together, gossip together, achieve your dreams together, countless promises.

But...you have to let go.

You have to love yourself more. 

Get a tub of ice cream, cry out loud and forget about the calories.

Set a time frame for yourselves to be sad.

If it's a week, spend a whole week sad to the max. Cry to the max. Cz u can't do it anymore right after the week.

Here's something that you can do.

1) Pick up a hobby
If you already have one, do it. And keep doing it. Doing things that you love make you happy. If you don't have any yet, find one! Be it swimming, playing tennis, watching your favorite drama, reading books (helps the most) and etc.

2) Write down your feelings.
Writting your feelings help to release your feelings. Sometimes it's hard to talk to ppl. Not every understands you. You're the only one understand yourself the most. Writing down your feelings help to control your emotions as well. At least, it helps to stop you from calling your ex telling them how much you miss them.

3) Plan a trip
Traveling helps to speed up the healing process. When you're out of the country, you see more things! And soon you will realize that the world is so beautiful that you don't want to miss any moments being sad.
I have a friend travel by herself, alone and I can see that it helps a lot. So, go travel! Go out and see the world!

4) Shopping! The so called retail therapy!
Dress yourself up! Follow your heart! Turn yourself into a stunning bitch! Shine the world! When you look good, eventually you will be more confident! And when you're confident, you will be more happy!

5) Meet new ppl
Go all the way out to meet new ppl! Don't by shy! I was really shy but I told myself I need to do that cz firstly it kills my time, secondly it's a chance to prove that I still have the market wtf! Trust me. Meeting new ppl makes you feel brand new! And sometimes, it's actually better to talk to ppl that u've just met.

6) Surround yourself with positive people, positive things, positive event!
Stop listening to sad songs! Cz it will not help. It will make you feel even worst. Surround yourself with ppl that you love and ppl who love you! Your friends and family! And most importantly, ppl who r positive!

The healing process takes time. Don't rush it but go along with it. 

Be happy when you're happy! Cry out loud when you're sad!

Let everything out.   

It takes time but it's 100% possible.

You just need to focus on what's happening right now and appreciate them!

Learn from the past, appreciate the present, create the future. 

And most importantly, don't be afraid to fall in love again! You wouldn't have the chance to see a double rainbow without heavy rain :) 

Read here to understand more about the stages of break up. 

You will feel better if you know what might be happening next!

When my past relationship ended, i read a lot of articles and books! And i learned a lot and now turned into a different person. A much mature person. 

If i can do it, you can do it as well!

Dear my love,

14/11/2012 4 Strands Braid Hair Tutorial

This braid might look complicated to you but it's actually not complicated at all.
You just need to keep practicing it, especially when you have nothing to do at home or while you're sitting in the car, use that free time to practice.

Important : Always start from one side. If you start from the most outer strand, keep doing it until the end and vice versa. I'm kinda use to starting from the inner strand and that's what you can see in the video.

Feel free to send me a picture of you if you managed to do it! :) Share the love! :)
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Headband can be found here : http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=467123770005492&set=a.467123470005522.128956.243458082372063&type=3&theater

ps: I'll keep updating this post whenever i learned a new hair style. I'm not so good in hair styling but i want to learn more and share with you girls what i've learned! Just like how i started my fashion diary years ago when i know nothing about fashion! Hopefully I can be better and I hope you girls learn something from here too! :)

11/11/2012 Fish Tail Braid Hair Tutorial

I learned this braid since a year ago.

I love braidng my hair although i don't really look as good as i should LOL

However, if you're bored with your long hair and you still yet to know how to braid fish tail hair, here's a video for you.

There're thousands of videos out there showing you how to do fish tail braid. You may search more online if you don't find this useful :)

This is my first time doing it.

Hope you guys will like it!

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I wanted to write about this for a VERY long time. I just couldn't find the right time to blog about it.

Until i saw a tweet about someone committing suicide because his loved one cheated on him @.@

And i have this urge to write this post cz i hope everyone who's involved in such cases know that you're not alone cz this happens everyday everywhere in the world.

Let me tell you my stories. I've been cheated on twice, by 2 different guys on 2 different occasions. And it's not like we were in short term relationships. 

The first one was 2.5 years. The other was twice longer.

Honestly, you will be seriously sad when you find out that your loved ones cheated on you, whether it's emotionally or physically. 

But you have to STAND UP! DYING IS NOT A SOLUTION!

Why not stand up proudly and point your middle finger at them?

There are a few stages that you will go through.

1) You guys break up.

2) You find out that it's because he had been cheating on you emotionally/physically.

3) You feel like it's the end of the world. You guys had been together for so long and why! why would he/she go for someone else? 

4) Start blaming yourself and think that you're the worst person in the world and that you must've done something wrong that's why he/she doesn't want you anymore.

5) You can't trust anyone anymore. You want to run away from the world.

6) Tears, tears and more tears.

I just want you to know that you're not alone! Not everyone has been through this BUT I DID! TWICE! AND I SURVIVED! 

Feel the sadness but don't overdo it. Don't let your feelings control you. 

This is very important cz there're so much more things in the world that you still want or need to do.

You still have your family and friends. 

And most of the time, we think...

- We can still get them back.

- It's just temporary. We've been together for so long and no, he/she is not serious about this and eventually he/she will regret and come back to me.

- No, he/she didn't cheat on me. They're just friends. 

- I'm already 24 and i don't think i can still meet someone like him/her.

- He/she is the best person that i've ever met and i'm so used to being with him/her.

All these thoughts hold you back most of the time and eventually you "think" that you still want him/her.

Yes. Sometimes, you just miss those feelings and the memories but not the person. 

But you need to move on. Even if you still want them back you still have to move on!

Why? Cz if you're still there all the time, ready for him/her, they won't feel that they're actually losing you.

In order to get them back, you must at least lose them or make them feel like they lost you first right?

I know that you will not move on cz you "think" that they will still come back, they must've lost their mind temporarily or you will wait for them.

I had the exact same thoughts last time.

In such a case, you don't need to force yourself too hard to move on. But, in order to win him/her back, you must at least brush yourself up a little bit right? Who's gonna love you back when you look like a zombie everyday, crying, and you don't even love yourself?

So, there are a few things that you need to focus on doing now.

1) DO NOT CONTACT HIM/HER OR LET HIM/HER CONTACT YOU.

I know this is hard but you have to do it if you still want him/her back!  

A relationship is like a rubber band. The more tension you put on it, the higher the risk that it will break. 

So, loosen up your relationship a lil bit and try not to contact them for at least 4 weeks. Why 4 weeks? cz you need some time to calm yourself down and give him/her some time to really think about the relationship too.

You might probably ask what i should do in those 4 weeks? "I don't think i can do it." "We used to talk every night before sleep." "I can't live without thinking about him."

Throughout these 4 weeks, you need to start learning how to move on and make your life better cz you can't just stay in your room the entire day telling yourself not to call him/her.

Find something that you've always wanted to do and do it.

It can be traveling alone, hitting the gym, do something crazy like paragliding etc etc. 

Do something that you love and meet your friends and family more often! surround yourself with positive people!

Talk to your best friend. If they really are your best friends, they won't judge you and they will give you full support. Tell them your plans to get him/her back so that they can help you through the process and you won't feel so lonely. But you don't have to do this if you're not comfortable with anyone.

You will feel a lil bit crazy in the 1st week.

You might start doubting whether this is the right way to get him/her back. Whether there will be a higher chance of losing him/her.

When this happens, you just have to keep the rubber band principle in mind. We're all human and that's what we always do. Holding on to something and doing nothing to improve it because we're too scared of losing it. You must give in order to take. So, just leave it temporarily. If he/she contacts you, keep it formal. No crying no begging no nothing. Just say Hi and if there's nothing important, cut short the conversation. Try to keep minimal or no contact at all with him/her.

If you still find it hard to go through this phase, imagine the days that you will have with him/her in future. Those happy smiles. 

Also, don't stop yourself from crying or being sad. Once in a while, if you feel like it, just cry your eyes out and eat whatever you want. 

Stop listening to all those sad songs though. And stop stalking him/her on their FB or check their phones or whatever. Cz you don't want to be controlled by your emotions. 

Hold on, hold on for just a while. The first few days might be hard but it will not be the same later. 

2) Now, start thinking deeply what's the actual reasons for the break up.

There will surely be more than one reason but you gotta be honest with yourself.

Note : The reason that i'm sharing this is because i had a hard time finding people to talk about this. Especially when my mood swing & felt nauseous. I read a lot online and it really helps. If you're shy to ask here but would like to know more about this, you may email me at sherlynlicious@gmail.com  :) Every girls must protect themselves. Every guys must know how to protect their girl / women as well. If you're not opting for condoms for a several valid reasons (too costly, skin sensitive etc), this would an important knowledge that you need to know. SAY NO TO TEEN PREGNANCY!

Note 2 : I closed the comment section because of some non related comments left by irresponsible people. Anything pls email me directly. Thanks

 Have been wanting to write about this for a long time.

 Our teacher never really taught us about this and most parents either ignore it or force their children to not have sex.

 But well, everyone know that it's happening. Especially youngsters these days.

 I'm very honest with my family and we talk about sex from time to time. (haha not so often la)

 Honestly, i didn't really know much about this until i met my current bf. 

 He did a lot of research and we finally found the best method of birth control.

 And i would like to share some of the related topics here.

 Birth control methods

 1) Condoms - Male & female condoms Click on how to use a female condoms

 2) Oral contraceptives - Hormone pills that contains estrogen and progestin which will help to inhibit ovulation and so prevent conception. These pills need to be taken for around 21 days each month.

 3) Contraceptive patch - A patch that releases synthetic estrogen and progestin to prevent pregnancy. It can be applied to any of your body part. Similar hormones as in birth control pills. You have to stick for around 21 days  each month.

 4) Injection - Can be done in any hospital. This needs to be done every 3 months. Any longer than that will increase the risk of pregnancy.

 5) Vagina ring - A ring that stays inside the vagina for about 3 weeks to prevent pregnancy. It releases hormones similar to oral contraceptives & Contraceptive patches. 

 There're a lot more methods that can be found online. These are the well known types.

Factors to consider while choosing a birth control method

 1) Overall health condition

 2) How frequent your sex life is

 3) Possible side effects

The best method for couples who are very close to each other (seeing each other like every single day haaha) would be birth control pill, patch & injection.

There're a lot of birth control pill brands that can be found in drugstores like guardian, caring etc. 

Why i chose birth control pills instead of others

 Very simple.

 1) Patch : I don't like to stick anything on me and it's quite unsexy LOL haah

 2) Injection : Scared of pain wtf 

 Birth control pills differ according to the dosage of the hormones & the price.

 Side effect of birth control pill

 Headache, dizziness, breast tenderness

 Nausea

 Decreased libido

 Mood swings

 Weightgain

My experience

 I knew nothing about BC pills previously. Ooib was the one who did all the research & Carol (the gal who brought us together) was also the one who taught me a lot about sex & pregnancy prevention wtf hahahaha

 I heard a lot of rumours about BC pill where people gained like 5-10kgs after taking the pill. 

I'm on Mercilon and this is how it looks like! 

 So cute right? It's in pink and it shows you when you last took your pill so that you will know whether you missed any of the pill.

 Ooib chose mercilon since it has a lower dosage of hormones, fewer side effects and also affordable, at around RM21-25 per pack.

 So i started the pill in April. I had dizziness, breast tenderness, nausea & mood swings especially in the first few months. 

 I felt like crying almost every other day and i had no idea what was going on. I blamed the pill though hahah

 Lotsa people might ask questions like "what if I miss a pill? this is the most common question i can say cz i asked a few times too.

 According to the pharmacist, couples still need secondary protection for the first month even though the girl is on the pill. 

 Sometimes I tend to forget to take my pill too. Ooib has his alarm set for me everyday at 8pm and i had mine set too so that both of us won't forget again.

 If you forget to take the pill for 1 or 2 days. Don't worry, nothing will happen. Just make sure that you take the pills that you missed immediately whenever you realized it.

 Another frequent question regarding BC pills is about weightgain.

 I did a lot of research before cz i was so freaking worried about getting fat.

 It does make you feel like eating more but that's just in the first few months while your body is adjusting to the hormones.

Finally, i'm writting about this...

The reason that i did not write this earlier is because i need 100% information from the agency so that i won't confuse u.

Since i had been in USM for 3 days, i can memorize the whole thing already! lolzz

so if u have any question, just email me..i'll do my best to help u..

#1 U must be a student(undergraduate/pursuing master degree)

If u want to join this program, u must have a student status letter..

which means, u must be a student (undergraduate).

The last chance that u can join this program is before ur graduation.

U can apply before u gradute n go after u graduate.

However, there will be a risk that u might not be able to get the USA visa cz they usually scared that people will *jump aeroplane*

*not coming bac on due date*

but anyway, u need not to be too worry cz a lot of students apply before their graduation n go after their graduation..like me n bear~

Well, if u r now a master student or if u r goin to pursue master degree, u r eligible for this program too.

However, u must be <30 years old and already there for atleast 1 semester.

#2 Understand the program and talk to your parents

2.1 How long u can stay in the US

Students can stay in the US for 6 months the most.

U r allowed to work for 2-4 months and travel for 1 month (maximum)

U can deicde which date that u wan to go and come bac to Malaysia.

Everything is up to ur own decision. Like me, i went there in Sept 2010 and came bac to Malaysia on 3rd of Jan.

Which means, i work for 3 months and travel for 1 month.

U can decide how many months u want to work n how many days u wan to travel.

2.2 Which batch should I join for the WAT

ok...so this is the question tat i get in most of the time.

This program is actually open for all year long.

If u r interested to go in this year, u may join the summer/fall batch.

Summer batch starts from May to Sept while fall batch starts from Oct till Dec.

I'm not really sure for the fall batch. U guys can always email Out of the box for any enquiries.

but for now, if u have sem break during May till Sept, or 4 months within May till Sept, u r encouraged to join the summer batch.

2.3 When should i start applying?

 The earliest u apply, the better.

Usually, for students who interested to join the summer batch, they r encouraged to apply since Nov 2010 till thereafter.

The earlier u apply, the more chance for u to get ur desired job.

but if u r late, u dont need to worry as well cz there r always job offers coming in.

2.4 Do i need to pay?

Yes. Of course.

The average total cost that u might needed is around RM10k.

RM3k = Programme fees (Processing fees, medical insurance, employment arrangement etc)

RM450 = US J1 Visa

RM4k-6k = Flight ticket, go n forth (U can either get it from OOTB or buy it urself)

USD 500 aka RM1600 = Pocket money

We r required to bring at least USD 500 into US cz we might get question wen we pass through the kastam.

This is wat i experienced wen i went through the kastam last time.

n also, u will only get ur pay check 2 weeks after u start working. Therefore, u might need some pocket money for daily expenses n transportation.

2.5 What kind of jobs available for WAT program?

My answer is : Holiday jobs!

Resort, themepark, restaurants, national park etcetc

2.6 Can I choose the job?